I Lost My Baby Too: A Message from a Grieving Dad
The loss of a baby born asleep is a grief no father ever expects to face. And yet, many dads feel invisible in their mourning. Society often looks to fathers to be strong and stoic, to support their partners, and to carry on quietly. You’re expected to go back to the person you were. To just
carry on with life as if nothing happened. But nothing was the same anymore, for me. You see, as a dad my grief mattered too.
If you are a grieving dad who doesn’t want to feel invisible, who longs to be acknowledged and heard, you know how heavy this silence can feel.
And if you’ve been struggling to find a safe space where you can openly share your grief with other dads who understand, the loneliness can affect not only you, but also your family.
This article will explore how my3 free tools for grieving dads and a 1:1 Dad Support Session.It will give you practical steps and safe connection, so you can start carrying your loss while still showing up for your partner and family.
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My Story
Hey I’m Azher.
When my son was born asleep, my whole world broke apart. I felt lost, overwhelmed, and I couldn’t believe this was happening to me.
As a dad, I felt pulled in two directions. Part of me needed to grieve. But at the same time, I knew I had to show up for my wife and my kids. Like many fathers, I found myself stuck between being the supporter and being the griever. And most of the time, the supporter role came first.
So I pushed my own feelings down. I stayed quiet. I threw myself into my busy business where it gave me somewhere to hide. I thought being strong meant not showing pain. But inside, I felt invisible, alone, and even guilty for wanting to express my grief. I didn’t want to take anything away from my wife’s pain.
After a while, I did speak to someone. He was kind, but he hadn’t gone through the same loss. He couldn’t really understand what it felt like, but he did acknowledge me as a grieving dad. That moment lifted a little weight off my shoulders. But it didn’t last.
Now, almost twenty years later, the grief still finds me in new ways. It reminds me of something I wish I’d had back then, a safe space where dads like me could be seen, heard and supported.
What Are The 3 Free Tools?
To help dads like you, I’ve created three simple tools you can download right now:
Light Moment: Weekly memory of remembering your baby.
Anchor Plan: To help ease the heaviness in difficult moments and dates.
The 3 Sentences: Nightly reflections to build awareness and show moments of light even of dark days
Alongside these tools, you can also book a private 30-minute Listening Session. This is a safe, 1:1 space where you can:
Share your story without judgement.
Be acknowledged as a grieving dad, because your grief matters.
Take small steps toward carrying your loss while still supporting your family.
Explore the next stage that is open to you.
How Does It Work?
Here’s how it all comes together:
Start with the 3 Free Tools: Begin by using the journal prompt, breathing guide, and connection script. These help you take small, gentle steps right away.
Book Your Free 1:1 30-Min Listening Session: In this private space, you can share openly, be heard, and feel acknowledged as a grieving dad.
Carry It Forward: The session will guide you to find balance between being a supporter and a griever.
Next Steps: From here, you’ll be able to discuss how you can move forward and what is open to you.
This support is built to meet you where you are at, giving you immediate tools and a safe place to begin healing.
Pros & Cons of This Support
Pros:
● Free, practical tools you can use right away.
● Safe, private 1:1 space tailored for grieving dads.
● Focuses on your grief, not just your role as a supporter.
● Opens the path to explore next steps
Cons:
● Speaking up may feel hard at first.
● Not a replacement for professional counselling if you need medical or clinical care.
● Some dads may prefer to go straight into group support.
Conclusion
If you are a grieving dad, and you’ve been struggling to find a safe space where your grief is acknowledged, and you’ve tried staying silent or throwing yourself into work, then these 3 free tools and a Free 1:1 30-Min Listening Session can help.
They give you a way to begin practical steps you can use today, and a safe space where your grief matters. You don’t have to wait years, like I did, to be heard.
